The first thing you need to know about how to talk with women, is how you can quickly get over your nervousness because women can “smell your fear”.

Women love to talk so you should be inquisitive and ask questions.

Make her feel comfortable so she’ll feel good about opening up to you.

That will form a bond of affinity and your nervousness will quickly pass.

To achieve this, just act as if you’re talking to your best friend. When you talk with your best friend it’s easy and natural. Just pretend she’s your best friend.

Make eye contact as she talks. Nod and appear interested in what she’s saying. The reality is you might not be so interested, but a good friend would listen anyway, right? Be empathetic and not judgmental.

There is one major problem with appearing too much like a good friend; you wind up in the dreaded “friend zone”.

The friend zone is where she sees you as someone that she feels no sexual attraction to.

To solve this problem, you will move on to more sensual subjects after you’ve gained some rapport with her.

Again, you do this by asking questions.

Ask questions about the most romantic movies she’s ever seen, or if she’s ever had a kiss she can never forget.

Your goal here is to move her into remembering and even reliving sensual moments.

Notice the word sensual, not sexual – you start with sensuality because going straight to sexual talk might be okay, but it might be too dramatic a shift from friendly talk going right into sexy talk.

So you want her to experience sensual feelings while talking with you. That could also include sensual experiences such as relaxing by a fireplace, into a hot bath, or sensual eating experiences such as chocolate strawberries.

Romantic, sensual talk that gets her to feel all those sensual feelings means that she’s likely to attach feeling those feelings to being around you.

That’s only natural – for example, if every time she’s around you, all you do is talk about depressing subjects, she’s going to associate being around you with feeling depressed.

So, be sure to create an atmosphere of comfort and connection, then move on to sensual subjects so she associates sensuality with being around you.

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