So you’re new to flirting or maybe you’re newly single and have forgotten how.

Let’s get you started out on the right track with some tips on how to flirt:

Tip #1 -  “The Eyes Have It”:

All flirting starts with a little eye contact.

A little eye contact – you don’t want to stare or give her the “bedroom eyes”, at least not yet.

Initial eye contact for effective flirting is “getting caught” giving her a sideways glance, then playfully looking away.

A sideways glance means you’re not directly facing her, and your head is even slightly cocked at an angle – this denotes playfulness as opposed to staring straight at her which conveys aggressiveness.

Let her catch you glancing at her a couple of times, then move on to the next step, which is our next tip:

Tip #2 – “Smile When You Say That, Stranger!”

After a couple of playful glances, it’s time to add a little smile.

A little smile – this is not the time for some giant, ear to ear grin. You can more directly face her with your smile, but a slight angle away is a little more playful and flirtatious.

Look for her to return the smile.

Tip #3 – “Mirror Mirror on the Wall…”

If you’re not already mirroring her body posture, now’s the time to start.

You and she have been doing a little innocent glancing and smiling, and you want to be sure you’re “non-threatening” in your body language.

Placing your body posture in a “similar but not exact” position conveys to her non-verbally that you are “like her” and people like people who are like themselves.

Now you’re ready to to move to other strategies we cover on this site for approaching her and starting up a conversation.

Here’s how to successfully and fearlessly approach women:

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