Guys who want to know how to approach women are often barking up the wrong tree – here’s what you need to know so you don’t waste your time and money on methods that just don’t work:

There is really only one thing you need to be able to approach any woman, anywhere and anytime.

With this one thing, for the rest of your life you will be able to approach any woman you want – no matter how beautiful she is.

That one thing you need to have is what I call “super confidence with women”.

But, what exactly is confidence?  What is that stuff we call confidence that we guys need and want so much?

What is confidence, really?

The dictionary defines confidence as “belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities; certitude”.

So, confidence is a sense of certainty. Confidence is being sure. “Belief in oneself” means being sure about your identity – being sure about who you are as a person.

“Belief in one’s powers or abilities” means being sure about your capability.

That means being sure about something you can do.

The bottom line, then, is that confidence is a sense of certainty about your identity or capability.

In other words, confidence is being sure about who you are; confidence is being sure about something you can do.

That’s it! That’s all confidence really is. Confidence is a sense of certainty about who you are or something that you can do.

That also means that if you have low levels of confidence it’s because you have a lack of certainty about who you are or something you can do. It’s a lack of being sure about some aspect of your identity or capability.

That brings us to an important distinction:

What’s the difference between confidence and self-esteem?

Is confidence different than self esteem? Are they the same thing? Are they related to each other in some way? Do they affect each other?

Many people confuse confidence and self-esteem.

They use those terms interchangeably and they think they mean the same thing. But they are not the same thing and it’s important for you to understand the difference.

And it’s important that you know how they’re related and how they affect each other.

The dictionary defines self-esteem as “a favorable impression of oneself”.

That means self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. Self-esteem is a measure of how much you like yourself at any given point in time.

Confidence is a feeling of certainty about your identity or capability.

Confidence is a feeling of being sure.

On the other hand, self-esteem is how you feel about yourself and like yourself. Self-esteem is an evaluation you make about how much you like yourself right now.

Bottom line: Confidence is a matter of being sure of yourself and self-esteem is a matter of liking yourself.

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